it's tough to bring up the things we want, but i think that's part of therapy. learning to be able to assertively say "this is what i need." she could have read your hints as you not sure if you wanted to talk about it or not. someone else mentioned she might not have wanted to trigger anything for you. to you it seems obvious but i've found in my own life that sometimes i think i'm hinting something pretty damn hard only to discover the other person was totally reading me a different way. t's want to help. i try to remember that when I feel frustrated about my t - he's been consistently good to me in the past so i try to check the facts and consider other possibilities. often he responds well when i explain what's going on in my head and what i'm worried about in terms of his responses.