Tongalee, I can relate to how you feel and how hard it is to bring things up. We all go to therapy because we have difficulties and one of my problems is being really passive, so like you I can find it difficult to raise things on my own without T's help. Just because we know what we need to do, doesn't mean that we can do it easily - feelings aren't always logical and can't be pushed through via thought alone.

I have gone through so many sessions not saying what I want to say and then have been cross with myself afterwards. But I am learning that it is about being kind to myself and not critical that helps me move forwards.

But yes the flip side of these difficulties, is the resulting frustration of not having questions answered, or not talking about things that are burning inside and I guess we just need to be aware of this and try to find ways of doing it differently.

I wish I was as confident as others on here are in talking so openly with their T's, but as I said we all have our issues and this is one of mine.

My T encourages me to talk about the difficulties I have talking about things, rather than talking about the things themselves (if that makes sense). I wonder if as a start, you can tell your T that you do sometimes finding it difficult starting to talk about something and whether you can explore ways of getting you started?