Wow, everybody seems to be all over this with sweetness, but I the one of cynicism am here, with a failed marriage chocked full of infidelities, to shed some light on this unfortunate and potentially dangerous subject. I am very sorry this happened to you. You didn't deserve this, and always remember it's not your fault. Don't put the blame on only one of them either. It takes 2 to tango. Here's what you can do, first you have to get him to confess, no easy feat. Don't have sex with him anymore, because she may be the only one, but there could be others as well, and you don't want to ruin your health. After he's confessed, you 2 should probably seek some sort of counceling. This may or may not work out due to you having to get over the lying, cheating, etc., and you will take a long long time to get over this. You're human, it hurts, and that's normal. You also should know that the 1st time my husband cheated, we did this, and......well, we're divorced now due to his insatiable lust for sex, with anyone or anything, animal, vegetable, or mineral. I have alway believed once a cheater, always a cheater, and so far, my theroy has been shot down once, and it was by a girl who used to cheat, and as far as I know, doesn't now. Personally, I know you love yur husband, and I know it hurts, but if ya'll don't have kids together, and if after a while, you still can't trust him, get rid of him, men that cheat are never good enough for the women they're with anyways. My love and prayers are with you in your time of need.

GPG