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Originally Posted by Ryan.l.s
as a man how would you reveal (to your significant other or to a close friend) about your abusive past? Would you only tell them if they (for whatever reason) asked, or would you want to someday tell them in order to feel closer to them?
I'm asking this because in all honesty, I wouldn't be able to tell anyone, and if someone asked I'd lie about it or downplay it.
it's embarrassing to not be able to fight back / defend myself and even more embarrassing that im a boy.
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Ah, I know exactly what you mean, I too absolutely avoid revealing things about myself, because the feeling of vulnerability for a guy especially is really unknown and something we all want to avoid, especially around women. I think the idea of going to a therapist is a good start, because telling nobody doesn't help. I tried to hide things about my past all my life, and all that happens is it begins to bubble to the surface in all facets of your life and begins to plague you in everyday life and you can simply see the confusion on the faces of others as your behaviour becomes more and more odd. So, yeah, it is something you will have to release at some point, in order to be free of it
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