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Originally Posted by lost_kitten
Anybody out there who has never been married and has no children?
How do you deal with it? I keep on seeing lives of old friends moving forward, people getting engaged, married, having babies while my life is at a standstill. It's not that I don't wish everybody well, but rather it just makes me sink deeper into depression. It feels very lonely.
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Yup, I've never been married, had children or even been in a committed relationship for more than 2 months. Do I still want children? Yes, please. But I don't want to bring a child into this world if I'm not mentally healthy. So how do I deal with not having children? I acknowledge my occasional yearnings, but in the same breath I also thank God I don't have any to pass on this disorder to. I see my friends' children growing up, heading off to high school, college etc and yes, I wonder what that would feel like. But only fleetingly. I don't dwell on it. I don't look at their facebook pics. I don't ask about them. That's my way of coping.
Since I'm not dying to have children, I'm not perturbed about marriage. Do I want a loving companion? Yes, please. However, my desire for company ebbs and flows very, very frequently. So I'm not sure if I'm capable of carrying on a long term relationship. Would still like to try though. . . if only I could find a willing partner who I have chemistry with.