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Originally Posted by hvert
I'm sorry, but it doesn't seem like communication is the issue here. This guy is in his 40s, has a decent job, but lives with his mother because his ex complained about him living with you and he spends all of his money on expensive clothes and food? There's just one red flag after another there. Is it possible that your clock ticking is driving you to desperation?
If you really want to be with him, I think the only thing you can do is accept that this is who he is and learn to live with it.
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In context, his ex is complaining about the kids being too far from school. A valid reason for him to move it does not say she complained about him living with her at all.
So what if he spends his money on clothes and food? he is a single father and that's what he likes to do. WTF, don't see a red flag here. i'll be damned if a girlfriend of mine is going to tell me where to spend my money while i have my own finances to deal with.
What is wrong with an adult living with their parent unless it's in the context of he's never lived alone, never been married, is a mama's boy that can't do things for himself? In this context i don't see it, I see it as circumstantial that he ended up living with his mother. I highly doubt it's the above reasons and therefor I don't think he deserves this judgement.