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Old Apr 07, 2007, 06:39 AM
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Being rejected hurts. Been there myself. I think he may really have been interested in you romantically, but found that, during the date, you and he really didn't have that much in common. I know you didn't expect his reaction, but at least he was honest with you, and it doesn't sound like he said it in a mean way. I know it hurts worse if you found you liked him that way, but you didn't say you did or didn't. Better he told you now, than waste your time.

As for your feelings of, How dare he? Who does he think he is? I've felt that way, too, about things that have happened to me. There was a thing on the news yesterday about how "pretty people" get more benefits in life. So, it's understandable that you'd feel shocked for someone less attractive, less "cool," less whatever, to reject you. Don't beat up on yourself for societal conditioning. Just recognize it. Then, you accept it if you're ok with it, and if not, try to change it. You're not horrid. And I surely doubt you've lost your appeal, just because one (or even ten) guy decided he wasn't interested. Not everyone is attracted to every attractive person, and even when one likes the physical, they may find other things they don't like, or don't like enough to make it a relationship.

You're not a bad person. Imperfect, yes, but bad? No. Welcome to the club! There are plenty of guys who would enjoy your company, as well as your looks. And maybe this guy is a jerk. I don't know him, but he surely isn't too smart, to dump you! He's a loser, because he's losing out on you! You can do better...trust me!
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