The people around you probably don't define you by your depression, they will see the hard working guy who stepped in to help his wife's family business out, the guy who put other people before himself. Sure people will see you are depressed right now, but they will have a much stronger image of the guy who you were before and who you can be again. Depression is a thief, robbing its victims of their identity and their confidence. Depression makes me feel like a fraud because I can tell you all this stuff that I can't believe for myself.