wow I must say to all.. I'm not sure how you all drew some of the conclusions you've come to. About the only thing that I see as a yellow flag from him is that he is living with his mother. Of course that was tempered by the fact that his ex wanted the kids closer to school and that was probablly the fastest way to do that. Also, nothing in here has given evidence that he can't afford a house but may just not want one right now. how is that a reason for you to judge a man? Honestly.

Also am I the only one that can see the side of the man here? EVerythin in here has shown that 1. She's desperate to get married, 2. Wants another child, 3. doesn't like the way he lives (which by the way doesn't allude to the fact that he's a deadbeat in any way) and continues to try to change the way he lives. How is it that everyone here has missed this?

I'm sorry but part of me thinks that he's only angry and mean because she's nagging him to change everything about him that he enjoys in life or values.

I've been there. I gave up a lot for women and did what they wanted me to do. I wasn't myself anymore and I was unhappy for much of my life with these women. Changing a man into something he's not is not going to cultivate a strong and lasting relationship, let along a good marriage.