I was listing what the OP didn't like about him to illustrate that there isn't a communication problem. They have different lifestyles and very different values. She wants to get married and have babies. That's not the lifestyle he lives.

You aren't the only one that can see his side, but he is not the one asking for opinions. I do think we disagree about adult children who live at home when they have the means and competency to secure their own living arrangements and are not caretakers. A person who blames their ex for decisions they make about where to live is not someone I would want to marry.