I just get it all out there. Getting it out of your head where it wars/bothers me is half the battle for me. The first session with my T at the end she said I'd swamped her :-) But I wasn't as anxious and confused and all over the place anymore and that was very good. Think of a dog running in circles after his tail :-) You have to get him to stop and face forward, first. Get the "mess" out of your head where you can "see" it better and where it's exposed to the air and your T's sight too.