These are equally as important as constant lying.....but I definitely understand how the lying seems to top everything when it comes to deciding for a divorce.....if you can't trust your H.....then you can't have a loving marriage that is Biblically sound either.

My H's lies would come through silence....if he didn't say anything then he wasn't lying even though not saying anything by virtue of the silence saying there was nothing wrong lied just as much as if he had said there was nothing wrong (his issues are financial).......33 years on no communication.......the straw finally broke when I was again financially independent after my mother died to LEAVE HIM. That was 7 years ago while working through an IRS situation....but NOW that's over & I'm free to push through the divorce.

He was never there emotionally either....in his own Sci Fiction world. I think I finally know the reason for his behavior after all these years....but it's NOT something I can live with as so many bad feelings & anger have built over the years that just trying to deal with him this last week (& never successfully communicating) set off the anxiety level big time.

I understand the Biblical aspect of the divorce also.....I'm looking at my situation & I have no interest in getting married ever again....but there are times I really wish I could find a NORMAL person & could have a NORMAL marriage. Even though it's hard to define NORMAL after seeing my parents so totally dysfunctional & then living with a dysfunctional person in a dysfunctional marriage of my own.......think I'm better off alone & since there is no adultery involved in the divorce on either side......there are definitely other issues that can drive a marriage to divorce & finances & lying are a huge part of those issues.