I don't blame you for not wanting to talk to that pastor then. Sometimes I've called a church that I'd never been to and just talked about things. Most pastors, IMO want to help people, even strangers. Maybe that would even be better, to talk to a pastor, priest or chaplin you can talk to over the phone. You don't necessarily have to meet them or even tell them your real name. You can always hang up on them if they get too nosey or make you feel uncomfortable. It has to be something you feel at ease with. Nobody should put you down either.