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Originally Posted by ktron007
I have been doing my share of therapy as well. The biggest thing I'm having difficulty dealing with is his tendancy to distance himself from me, in every meaning of the word. This past Wednesday I was feeling particularly effected by what's been happening and had been specifically dwelling on how our intimacy has been non existent. He could sense I wasn't feeling good about things and insisted I talk about it. I explained what I was feeling, quite emotionally (no yelling, I was just really sad) and he just stared at me. He later said that he didn't want to run from his feelings but he felt he had to leave. I told him that was ok but I'm not really ok with him doing that but I'm trying to give him the space he needs instead of smothering him. He's been at his sister's now since Wednesday night. We haven't really communicated much besides a few texts of "good night" and how are you". I sent him a text a few hours ago saying "I can't make you do anything but I'd like you to come home tomorrow". I've yet to hear a response.
I can't handle being shut out like this.
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Honestly, I wouldn't be able to either. In fact, all told, it seems more like a head game he's playing. You're trying to open up and he keeps shutting you down. Maybe addressing this with your counselor, even if you have to do so without him, is something you might want to try. At this point, I am wayyyy more concerned with your emotional health than his. Head games are a form of passive aggressive terrorism, and I make this claim with first hand knowledge of just how awful it can be to suffer with someone who does that on a daily basis.
Distance because of hurt is one thing, but as has been already posted, you seem to have taken responsibility for your actions over and above what might have been expected of someone else in the same situation, and if he still feels it's appropriate to cut you off, physically, emotionally and verbally, then the problem has ceased to be yours, and has become....spectacularly, HIS.
I wish you hope and peace. Be well
