((((Juliana)))))

There are so many reasons why this guy didn't feel a spark that it could drive you absolutely up the wall if you try to rationalize each and every one that you can think of. Just try to accept it for what it is. He's still being a good friend to you? Then I would definately say that he HASN'T rejected you. It's something totally different.

Any impression that he's gay? You know, they do like friendships with the opposite sex. Whether he's gay or not, though, he obviously feels very comfortable with you. He probably never asked you out because he didn't want to risk that friendship that he found very enjoyable with you.

I remember a military guy that I used to sit by in one of my University classes. He had a girlfriend, so I knew he was off-limits. But I just enjoyed his personality so much. Maybe if he had been available, I would have developed a crush on him. I don't know. In fact, I can't even remember what he looked like anymore. See how soon we forget? But I really just wanted to hang out with him. We sat together, we chatted, he was funny and nice and we got along quite well. I wanted to ask him out to a movie.....not a date, obviously, but just one friend inviting another friend out for a stress-free evening. I just thought we would have a good time. But you know what? I never did ask him simply because I was afraid that he would take it as me coming on to him and making a date with him. That would have been humiliating. And then, of course, the whole dynamics of our relationship would have changed. We would have found ourselves probably not sharing the same seats in that one particular class anymore. So I just kept it at the friendship level, and never tried to take the friendship outside of the school setting.

Maybe your friend is "something" like that. He really enjoys your company, you two have wonderful chats, and it never hurts that you're not bad to look at. Lol. But to push past that point....well, it changes everything, especially if he really doesn't have a crush (because I didn't have a crush on my guy). But your guy cares enough that he's trying to get your friendship back on the even keel that it was on before.....he doesn't want to lose you. He wants to hang out with you. He enjoys your company. But he just doesn't feel *that* way.

You haven't been rejected, Juliana. He's trying to tell you, in his own awkward way, that he HASN'T rejected you. But he just maybe isn't articulate enough or secure enough to broach the subject. He's just hoping it will go back to the way it was. I think you just may have a friend for life in him, Juliana. You never know. He may be the one who always will side with you, no matter what you go through in life. He may be the shoulder to cry on, the body to hug in happiness, and the face to yell at when you're mad about something in life. He may be the rock in your life. Who knows? All I know is that it doesn't appear that he's rejected you. It appears to me that he likes you very much as a friend that he doesn't want to give up.

Try to be happy. Fight your WAD! And....LOOK AT THE SNOW!!!!! Can you believe it?? Where did it all come from? Hope we don't lose our electricity tonight.

God bless,
Sandy