Hey ThisWay, you're reaching out to us...now...on here. And that's good!!!
You're coping with a lot right now, and that's something you don't want to be trying to keep bottled up inside you or to go it alone with. As for your T she'd want you to be honest with her, she'd want to be there for you while she can, right?
So maybe give her that last chance to give you the support you really need, and allow her into the way you're feeling. You owe you and her that, if you look at it that way don't you?
She probably won't be able to make "it all better", but at least she can some sort of support to hold onto.
And my condolences for the loss of your aunt- mother figure. Now this may be really hard, but is there anything you can think to do on the anniversary which may celebrate her life/her having lived/the time you spent together instead of so much mourning her passing? Something personal to you- whether it's playing music she liked, writing down some memories/feelings about her, planting a rosebush (or anything else) in her name...........
As for loosing her house though, I'm sure there was so much more about her/to cherish than "bricks and mortar". And if she were around I'm sure that she'd rate you/your well-being well above any of that anyway, do you think? As long as you've got something to help you keep her close, doesn't matter how small/tiny/big/house sized or not, it is. Although having said that she's always going to be close in your heart, in your memories, right?
And anniversary of your first suicide attempt.......now I might be really screwing up here because feelings around events like that can be deeply personal, so I really apologise if I am, just come back at me if I'm way off target.............but.............you know that's 7 years you've hung in there, you've fought, you've tried, since the first time. Now how much strength does that show you have??!! Mark that anniversary maybe as something to show, the battles you've fought, how far you've come, just what you have in you. Which is there in you!!
And despite the years/how hard they may have been, you've still managed to hold onto important connections/you've met or stayed with your wife who you clearly care a lot about, you've reached out for and committed yourself to getting help/you're sticking with that. You have the chance of a much better future than you felt you had when you made that first attempt.
And back to your wife, it sounds like she's making the beginnings of a new start for you both?? I know it's got to be really isolating without her but don't loose contact with her while that's happening. However important a new start is, it's still important to keep the closeness and communication going. You are still together, you are still a big part of each others lives. Just pick up that phone/text/whatever you do, whenever!!
And crisis lines/chatlines??? If they may get you through/any one of them (if you need them) just don't hesitate if........
And that's besides talking to us of course!!
You know we're here for you, don't you??!!

Alison