Medication all but killed my sex life. I would lay there, let him do his job (as a good wife would) and be glad when it was done. Google your mental problem along with little to no sexual side effects. For example; mine would say, (bipolar medication with little to no sexual side effects.) I did that and told my doctor what I wanted to try. It changed my sexual life big time.

What has also help, I have to admit, is the fact that my kids are now teenagers. I have finally relaxed and get out of the mommy mode to lover mode. That took time. Which talking to family and friends over the years is normal.

Hubby and I have also gone to sex stores together. I looked up on the internet of toys and lubes that I would be interested in. I also read customer reviews.
Then I had to get over my shyness over having my husband watch or help me with the pleasure. That has been the big thing. But he totally loves it.

I hope I helped. What your going through I think most of us have been through at one time or another. Sorry your going through this. I know its a bummer.