Thanks rainbow.

I think this all sounds very sensible and I'm really glad your partner is on board with it all, and that you are in a healthier relationship. And I know what you mean about ending up in your head fighting with the movie. That's a really good characterisation of it actually. I have had one without the other, but only occasionally - it took me by surprise actually - and then I tend to try so hard to get that moment back again that, well, as you can imagine it ruins it somewhat.

So, good luck!