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Originally Posted by hvert
Gus1234U, I'm sorry - I don't want anyone to have hurt feelings over this thread. I'm mostly interested in understanding my own reactions to these situations. I have a very immediate negative reaction to this situation and I am not sure why.
Know-it-all may not even be the right word. Could you explain more about what you mean by being a know-it-all and why it happens?
I am talking about someone who pretends to have far greater grasp of a subject than they actually do and who lectures and argues with other people over the topic. Sort of like when a person who has no kids has all sorts of advice for parents about how they can better manage things because they read an article in Woman's Day and who would be very dismissive of an actual parent's experience.
I like the 2+2=5 idea. Looking back, I can see that perhaps some people are trying out their ideas and don't really know how aggressive they are coming across.
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One of the traits I've found of people that are ASD or Aspergers, they tend to be very information-oriented. They tend to know quite a number of facts about many things that others may not even think about simply because sometimes they are very focused in their scope of interests.
couple this with the fact that many times their ability to interpret and understand social norms in social circles they miss cues related to how they are being interpreted by others. This tends to make them come off as dry, matter-of-fact and many times resulting in looking like a know-it-all. Unfortunately for the people that don't understand this, it's off putting to them.
I'm not calling anyone wrong or faulting anyone for feelign this way about others but just giving an insight into some of the cases with regards to the subject at hand. not all of the so-called "know-it-alls" are aspie or even autism disordered but I am merely pointing out that sometimes this is the case.
Seems to me just like an introvert may choose not to interact as a thing to protect themselves, another type of personality might mask their insecurities using knowledge and factual information.
It's annoying at times but sometimes we just need to take a step back and see that no one's faults are worse than ours and neither are ours less than theirs. We all have issues in life and challenges with our personalities.