Thanks, Glok, unfortunately couples therapy isn't an option we live in an area where that isn't available and the "counseling" that might be available is such that it is "through" the local government system so it is not so private as one would hope.

Travelinglady, I think I am terrified that he will leave me, I immigrated to be with him and I have never been very good at "connecting" to people so i don't have a support network outside of him and his family ( not his fault he is constantly telling me to find someone I can have as "my friend" ) but I only manage to keep things superficial