reread this post and tell me what you wrote that is positive about the relationship...and him making you want to be a better person isnt positive, it is codependent which isnt healthy. there doesnt seem to be much healthy about this relationship. try a pro and con list. side by side list all the good things about the relationship and then list all the negative unhealthy things about the relationship. which list is longer. be honest about it. make a decison based on the list. are the good things worth living thru the bad? think about it. take care.