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Originally Posted by Talanic
Thanks for the replies and best wishes everyone. Yeah, I most likely should have waited a little. In some ways I felt I owed telling her when she asked since I honestly haven't been stable recently and I felt like that she should know what she was getting into. My thinking was also kind of what TgFlux was saying. Ultimately I want someone who I can lay all the cards on the table with and have there be no judgment and have that not impact on getting to know the person (on both ends). For example if I was connecting with someone (and I thought that we where connecting really well. She even said we where) on a date and they admitted to being schizophrenic (or other) I wouldn't let that affect my judgement of them and getting to know them. That's the person I want.
I none the less kind of feel stupid now haha... |
Some people I've told in conversation one, some at the third date...no rejections have occurred based on that...I stay away from clinical terms and just say that I used to hear voices but took medicine to stop it etc. everyone reacts differently and I suspect that being a female helps for a number of reasons....not the least of which just about any guy could hold me off in a physical altercation....as there is the perceived increase in violent tendencies....still I consider it a weeder kind of thing anyway....I'm looking for naturally xenophilic people and most of them are more curious about such things than worried about them....I'd rather not waste my time with people who would write me off for getting sick and actively fighting the illness with medical care rather than trying to limp by on my own just to avoid a label...