Red Panda,
Is It possible you are speaking very authoritatively on a subject about which you actually know very little?
I my family we have been learning about and discussing issues of giftedness since the seventies when my aunt became acquainted with an educator who remains an authority in this specialised field.
People with all manner of neurological atypicalities from right brain dominance to toiretres syndrome to ADD to minimal brain damage to giftedness have been discounted, belittled and shamed for being different, and then again for identifying their difference. Fortunately the unhelpful attitude of derision and blame yields, at least among the informed, to science. We now can "prove" that people who exhibit differences are not rebels or undisciplined nonconformists but people with identifiable, measurable brain differences that affect
much more than number recitation or block design.
We all have the right to our emotions, whatever they may be. It is not wrong to discuss them. It I'd not wrong for you to advise me either, but perhaps you might ask yourself whether you intend to be supportive of me or to argue with me. I welcome alternative views. Just keep it friendly and unabusive so I don't have to report abuse to save the thread. It's all about freedom of expression. Everyone gets to speak her truth.
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Originally Posted by A Red Panda
You could try applying an attitude similar to that, to yourself. You seem to be blaming everyone else who was or wasn't in your life, yet it angers you when others blame you. It goes both ways.
I could spend days and days going over all the opportunities that I missed out on due to not having the "right" people in my life.. or all the opportunities that weren't available around where I lived, or having some opportunities flat out denied me. I can blame everyone else for all the things that I missed out on... but what is it going to do? Nothing at all.
I find having empathy for others is a key part in my life - I'm not superior to anyone at all. I feel inferior sometimes, but I know that I am not. I live by the philosophy that everyone I meet will be better than I am at something, and that I in turn will be better than them at something. Considering one person to be superior to another is flat out wrong; we're all human.
You seem so focused on separating yourself from others Teacake. You aren't any more different than anyone else. But you keep judging everyone, either for not "giving" you what you feel you needed, or for being "less" than you. You're isolating yourself, and it isn't surprising that you seem so unhappy. It's lonely when you separate yourself, and live in the past.
If your life means nothing, that is because you have chosen it to be that way.
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