:Hi GentleSoul and welcome to pc. I like your username. I have battled depression for about a year now. There are times when I get frustrated with my husband because he downplayed the suffering I was experiencing. He even thought it was wrong for my medical doc to prescribe me anti-depressants. Of lately as my depression was deepening and causing me physical symptoms he could no longer ignore it. I think what happens is that people who are not suffering this illness don't understand what we are dealing with and it is frustrating. I don't know how to talk to a spouse without creating ruffles. When I finally went to a psychiatrist, I was afraid at first to tell my husband for fear of what he would say. We have been married for 28 years so I knew I can't keep secrets so I told him. Yes he was disturbed at first, but it started to sink in. He is being a little more supportive now. It takes honest communication, I think, even though that is hard. There are lots of folks who will support you here on this forum. Welcome and best wishes.