It's much easier to sympathize with people with physical ailments because, for the most part, you can see it. Mental illness is an invisible illness, and not one that people are generally very educated about...even when they know people (eg. their own children) are dealing with it. The only thing you can do is do your best to educate your mom and hope that eventually it clicks.

It is also possible that she is deep in denial because it is extremely difficult to accept the fact that mental illness is a lifelong struggle that there is no cure for.

I'm sorry you have to deal with that. My husband has done that to me on occasion. He has thought before that if I just think positively I can pull myself out of the deep dark depression...unfortunately it doesn't work like that. He knows that now, going through his own depression and issues, but for him it was more of a fear response. He didn't want to see me in that condition.

I don't know how old your mother is but there are generational differences in how things are perceived. My mother In Law thankfully keeps her opinions to herself but I know she feels the same way based on things she has said about my sister in law (also BP) in the past. Kind of the pull yourself up by your bootstraps mentality. I'm just sorry you have to live with it. I hope you are able to find a way out soon.

Some people are just ignorant. Good luck moving out, it sounds like a healthy plan.