Hi Werewoman,

Thanks for your reply, our children are 11, 8 and 5. We hadn't actually planned to have children, but I got pregnant with out oldest when we had been told we probably couldn't have children.

What mostly upsets my husband is that he feels we are too young to "just be friends" he wants a physical relationship as well.

We have had a very stressful time especially the last year with his break down, our oldest child being bullied and the school refusing to acknowledge the problem and maneuvering to place the blame on our home.

I know that I am exhausted all the time and that that effects how a person is interested in sex. But the intimacy is gone as well. My husband tells me that we are completely silent together. and that I am unwilling to talk, or respond in depth to anything he has to say.