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Originally Posted by ladytiger
My ex-therapist and I spoken about the inner child, but didn't do any homework on it. She told me I needed to "parent myself" but how do you tap into the inner child? What I've been trying to do is speak to the inner voice about what we are going to do and how to do it, then I feel surges of bitterness towards my parents when trying to avhieve something then lose track at what I am doing.
I know you are suppose to work on this with a mental health professional, but I refuse to go back to even speak to any MHPs! 3 is a charm for me, speaking to them they made me feel even worse. I saw a couple mentions of authors on inner child and is it possible to do it yourself? Anyone ever had success doing it? I have been feeling for a long time this urging feeling of "another person" inside but never believed in the inner child. My behavior explains why I do what I do because of the lack of nurturing I never got from my parents and did all sorts of crap long ago to get that nurturing.
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is it possible to do the work yourself....that depends upon what type of "inner child" you are talking about.....
here in NY (the one in the USA as opposed to other locations) the inner child has two meanings.....
the therapy approach and concept that everyone mental disordered or not has times when they feel and react like a child would.....
examples....
when you are impatient and like a child want things done like now or it totally upsets you to where you feel like crying or raging like a child would.
when you are angry and you react like a child throwing a temper tantrum.
when you see something you like and with no care to your bills and finances you like a child would go get that thing you think you cant live with out.
feeling happy and carefree as if you were a child on christmas morn.
storming out of work just because someone said something you didnt like....
a common one for me is going to visit an older relative and feeling like a child again when around that relative.
my point is everyone has times in their every day lives when they feel and react like they are/were a child.
working with this kind of inner child yes it is possible to work on it alone. all it takes is recognizing when you are feeling and reacting like a child, stop, take a moment to breath and then think about what the responsible adult side of you would do...the actual therapy that goes with this is called Transactional Analysis.. if you type in the search bar the words Parent, Adult, Child therapy you will find loads of information on this idea that everyone has an inner child, inner parent and inner adult part of them, and how to handle each of these and work on issues that revolve around this.
that said some people and locations use the term ....inner child...to mean Alternate personalities that happen due to extreme trauma (DID) working alone with alternate personalities can be a very dangerous thing and impossible for some to do on their own, especially if they have no to little co consciousness abilities with their alters.
each internal system of alterss with DID is comprised of what ever that person needed in order to survive. each alter has their own way of being, their own jobs, purposes and reasons for being. in most cases there are protector alters. these are alters in which at no cost they will protect the secrets, protect the host and internal system of alters from others outside the body, even if that means being violent, suicidal, raging, manipulative, lying, endless crying, moving everyone to a new location, .....there are many different ways in which an alter can protect the physical and mental aspects of the body in which they live.
example one of my alters any time I tried to talk, think about, work through anything about my childhood that alter would take over and I would become aware in a hospital room because that protector alter took over and took a mixture of pills trying to silence the mind and keep the secrets under wraps.
another example when ever I thought about this one problem I was having an alter would take over and I would become aware not knowing how I got moved to a new location away from what was triggering me to remember that issue that was causing that problem I was trying to work on.
its a very complex thing working on trying to fix the problems that come with DID on your own just because of all that went into how,why that person is DID to begin with.