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Recently my self-esteem took a beating since some you know what told me that she was only humoring me since she felt sorry for me for having a lack of friends and that I was weird, inappropriate, etc...
I know that not everyone is going to like or accept me, but that has not been the first time that someone has been fake nice to me. Over time a few acquaintances have talked behind my back and have called me "weird" and "crazy" behind my back, ugh! I was never anything but nice to all of them. I did end up defriending them after I heard about this of course!
Anyways, thank goodness that I never got to close to them. The problem is that I've struggled with depression and social anxiety since I was a teenager. I think that a lot of people don't want to waste much time on someone who's shy and quieter than most people. I've even heard some of them say that in the time that it takes to try to get a shy person to open up, they can be making ten new friends instead. Ugh!
I'm not super shy. I'm friendly and I'll talk to just about anyone who seems nice. I hate making the first move though, but I can if I have to. I just suck at knowing how to read people. There have been to many times when other people have told me let's hang out again, and then they never call or email me back. So, how can you tell when someone is being sincere and when they're just being fake nice just to be "polite"?
Is there any sure way to tell? I tend to take what people say literally. I'm not the best at reading social cues and body language. Tomorrow I'm going to meet a bunch of new women in a small group setting & I'm nervous about it. I sure don't want anyone to be "nice" to me just because they feel sorry for me, or that they feel obligated to just be "polite" as to not make themselves look "rude".
So how can I tell when people mean what they say and when they're just full of it and fake? Sometimes it takes me a long time to figure that out and by then I ended up wasting to much time on them and I end up feeling stupid since I ended up trusting them more than I should've! I'm so sick of getting hurt by these phonies! I'd really appreciate any advice! If anyone has any stories to share, or if you can relate to it in anyway, then I'd love to hear it!
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