I'm glad my husband takes responsibility for himself and lets me do the same for myself. If I don't feel like cooking dinner, etc., he certainly doesn't either so we do something else. He does not like to see me worn out because I complain, loudly He is happy to help me with chores when I ask (we both change the sheets on our king-sized bed, for example) and otherwise we work together to make sure our home is how we are both comfortable. "Why" you are tired is not the correct question? "What can I do to help you?" would be better?