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Old Jul 01, 2014, 12:11 PM
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Originally Posted by marjan View Post
Thanks for all the comments. Thanks for you guys to take your time and reply to my thread.

He is not a mama's boy or even close to that. My complain is that he doesn't make right decisions. He makes easy decisions which always lead us to not a good result.

And Yes, you guys don't know the whole picture.

I feel he's still suffering from the change that has happened in his life (divorce and losing the life style he used to have and living full time with his kids. These are not easy changes for sure!

Last night, he told me that he listen to me and he agrees with things that I tell him.

I can see how he's trusting me more and more in decisions making and I'm trusting him in lots of decisions as well.

I told him I want us to be partner and make right decisions together. I think that's how successful people do. Rather than being into each other faces and fighting.

I have been so good being able to control my emotions.

I feel things are going better as well.

M
I understand and i'm glad you spoke to him about all of this.

On his decision making the best thing I think you can do is try to slow down for a bit. Either of two things will happen, you will accept how he is and learn to live with it or he will naturally change (assuming you're right about the things that need to change) as time goes on and he trusts you more. Either way taking your time with this and letting the relationship grow more will help. I just think having the goal of marriage itself isn't a bad one to keep just don't rush that to happen, that might help relieve a lot of pressure on him.