I have been in your situation. My personal therapist was also the leader of my group. The group was horrible—I just did not click with the people. She pressured me to stay in the group—hang in there and try to make it work. It was complicated by the fact that she charged money for individual therapy and group therapy…I don’t know how much of a role that played in the mix. To be honest, she was not really that good of a group moderator. Our individual sessions became focused on the group and not really me and my individual issues. Finally, I put my foot down and quit the group.

When it came right down to it, I determined she was not the right therapist for me. Not only did we not “click” she was just plain bad at being a therapist. Even after I discovered she was “bad” I had a tough time terminating the relationship—I felt sorry for her and I did not want to hurt her feelings.

Some of my best learning has come from group work—when you are in the right group, things just happen. I love group therapy. It is up to you as to whether or not you stay in the group—your T. should support you in whatever you decide. If the group is distracting you from making progress in your individual therapy, then it really is not good for you.