(((((((((((Freewill))))))))))))

You are so right about the planning. When you know what to do and where to go, the fear of leaving is diminished and there is more of a comfort level there. The stress is so high at that time and you need to know exactly what you are doing.

There are so many reasons why we stayed.....unless you go through something like this, no one can truly understand what we do. People will say "I would never take that kind of abuse, I would leave immediately!" What they don't understand is that the manipulation and degredation starts way before the real physical abuse starts in. These men who profess to love us are so well versed in manipulation that we don't even see it coming before it's too late and some heavy damage is already done. Women being the nurturers that we are will almost always make excuses for their behaviors and believe them when they say they are sorry and it will never happen again. Lies, all lies.

Complicated doesn't begin to explain the marital abuse. But, there is always hope and always a way out of those situations. Plan plan and plan some more! Words to live by!

Hugssssss
J