in my intro, I share that my family is struggling with my step daughter and her destructiveness. How does one figure out if her behaviors are needing professional help,or simply needing more love,more structure and guidance on how to live a happy life ? I know many adults with her issues.....lying,cheating, everything is always someone elses fault, no remorse for bad behavior ..... I have seen people go to pshychiatrists and end up with so many labels that they end up worse than had they not gone. I don't want to have her go,and be labelled when it may be something she will outgrow.
she will be 17 soon. When she wants something,she does very well...trouble is trying to keep finding a motivator. She loves her extra curricular activities,some more than others....and can behave well, no one would guess the stress she causes at home. But, if the motivation may be too far off,say,a few weeks,then she goes back to bad behavior.