I know what you mean. I've seen a lot of these kinds of posts in this forum from partners or ex partners of people who didn't have a diagnosis and how it drove them crazy having to 'deal with' all of the other persons 'issues'. Since my diagnosis I've learned a lot about things that I do which are not considered to be socially acceptable ('nice' is probably a more colloquial term) and I do feel bad for them. Though I try not to dwell on them because I can't change my past actions, I can only try to not be such a 'pain' in the future. I know there are likely a lot of things I still do which will annoy or upset people around me but I'll deal with those as they happen haha.

I'll be honest, it does kind of annoy me when I see those kinds of posts on this particular forum because before diagnosis and before we understand that we think and act differently or that things we do can be construed as rude or offensive, we really don't know. It's not like we know and then go out of our way to be the most awkward Human-being we possibly can be just to spite the people around us. So I don't think it's very nice of these people to come to this forum for people with ASDs and rant about how difficult it is to live with people like us. In my mind, that's pretty rude.