I have been struggling with this issue for the past two years. My fiance has ADHD and at first hearing this i did not think much of it. As time went on i started to notice behaviors that i shrugged off as him being immature and that he would eventually outgrow them. When we first got together these behaviors did not seem to be present and i did not notice anything unusual. He has a very hard time keeping a job. He will be completed motivated to work and do whatever job he gets but has a very hard time with constancy. It has become a major problem in our relationship. it has made me feel as though he absolutely has no regards for anything that i say. i didn't understand why no matter what job it was he could not maintain it. He will be completely determined one week and fill out applications, re due his resume, and go to interviews but then it seems as though his attitude changes. He seems to be depressed, moody, and seeks a lot of attention from me. This is overwhelming for me and i am at my breaking point. I don't have the time or the energy to continue doing this. That sounds very unsympathetic but it has been two years of this up and down. I eventually started making list for him so that he could remember everything he had to do for the day as he would often forget things he had to do ever though i mentioned it the day before. We have had some financial issues because of this as he has forgotten to pay the electric bill and the utilities have been shut off things like that. I understand that this is part of the ADHD. My problem is that he does not. He thinks that he is just going through a phase where he just is not very motivated and cant seem to understand why he can not keep a job. I don't know how to get through to him or if there are any services for that could be provided for him. He goes from weeks where he is fully functioning and then weeks were its hard to get him to do anything. It frustrating as i have a lot going on and i feel like i have to constantly remind him and motivate him to get things done. i am also wondering if there other partners who are with someone with ADHD that are dealing with this? i feel like i have a child i need to monitor or push to get things done! Does this ever change or is this something that everyone with a partner with ADHD has to deal with? How can he learn to control his ADHD OR at least learn to cope with it . I feel like it has a big impact in hi life and i am not sure anymore how i can help.