we have had many talks with her,and some seemed like a connection would be made. But, it is so difficult to tell where the lies stop and the truth begins. Even simple truths can get twisted with her....she used to argue about things like what color the sky would be. I have homeshooled all my kids, two graduated and on into college and into the honors programs and deans list. My third one will be graduating in 2015 and already has high enough SAT scores that colleges are trying to get her attention. We have gone thru alot of tears,lectures,teen drama,discipline,etc,etc.... I don't expect my children to be perfect,but do expect them to be the best they can be. I had worked with troubled youth for years prior to meeting my husband. I had,what I thought,a good grasp of what all his daughter was going thru. But, it is going on five years,and,yes, I see headway with her,and she has been eliminating many of her outbursts and temper tantrums (that she can control when in public,and in fact,carries herself soooo differently that I have even been aproached to see if she could babysit!) once people start visiting and getting to know the family,they do see things,as she lets her mask start slipping. I had one friend,quietly come to me,an hr after a visit,and ask if she often treated me like what she had partially witnessed. Once my stepdaughter realized she was being observed,she immediately went into charming mode.