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Old Jul 02, 2014, 04:05 PM
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Originally Posted by isntlifewonderful View Post
I never wanted to hurt them, I just wanted them to take me back and love them...
In someways I think you may be manipulating yourself and/or us. You love them, but what I think you really want is for them to love you back. I think most often is the case that we don't know how to ask for what we really need from another person that we rely on manipulation to get it.

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Anyone else who does these sort of things without even realizing?
Most of us if not all of us.

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How do you stop yourself from doing so?

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The fact you're aware that you're doing this is a big step in the right direction. The next time you catch yourself about to do this try and do the opposite by asking for what you really need. That's all you can do is ask, but you're not entitled to have them act in the way you want them to. The reality is they may not even though you go about it the right way, but what you have to try and realize is you're also not getting what you want by going about it the wrong way.