i can see your problem. do u think that removing yourself from the situation in which intimacy would arise would help? your hubby does not wantt o hurt you and you should try to get across to him in the easiest way possible what u do not want him to do
inys ideas r good, listen to them, and if u casn pluck up the courage, try it. keep in mind that u shouldnt have to put up weith the things you dont want. and that u dont deserve to be hurt. it could b that u wanna b punished coz u feel that u deserve it. i tell u now missy, wwhoever u r at the time, u dont! talk to me anytime if u need support even tho i suck, heh stay safe! self