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Originally Posted by hvert
I think the way you tell whether or not people are sincere about wanting to get together or hear from you is their follow through! If someone says 'let's get together sometime' and you suggest a specific time and place, but hear nothing in return... then I would give them 2 chances and then move on to the next person. If they change their mind or their circumstances change, they can contact you.
I think you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find friends you click with. On another message board I am on, someone said that she has four misses for every 1 hit friendshipwise, which sounds about right to me.
I would really not take these things personally, if possible. Sometimes the timing is just wrong. A potential new friend emailed me a couple of weeks ago about getting together and I still have not gotten back to her because I've been too busy -- and now I am embarrassed that it took so long, which makes it even harder to contact her!!
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That's good advice. Action does speak louder than words! So I try to go be that much more than what people say these days. It's good to know that I'm not the only one dealing wit these issues! As for giving them more than a few chances, well, I think that two is my absolute limit. After that, if I don't hear from them, then it's best to move on.
As for that new friend of yours, you can still email her and tell her that you've just been super busy lately and suggest getting together soon. Just apologize and if she accepts, great! If not, oh well, at least you'll know better than to wait to long before contacting someone again.
I know what you're going through as a few women on a social networking site showed interest in meeting me, but I still haven't contacted them back since last year, so yeah, it is embarrassing! I'll still email them back though soon even though I made a horrible first impression! Maybe some people are more forgiving and understanding than we might think they are, so it's worth a try, right?