don't trust anyone until they have earned it..as simple as that.90% of people you meet are full of ***** these days , period.

i used to give people the benefit of the doubt, i don't do that any more..i have been burned too many times.

yes there are still good people out here but they are few and far in between.

1. first time someone doesn't back up what they said...they showed you who they are.
2. people that only call you when the want something/need something..big red flag.
3.in my book now.you are phony until proven otherwise.
4. if someone really wants to be your friend, they will make it a point to talk to you..spend time with you & make plans with you. they will want to talk to you on the phone..see you in person and do things...texting and e mails are so impersonal, it's a shame talking on the phone seems to be a dying art. e mails and text are control mechanisms( i'll be bothered with you when i want to/it's convenient for me/i have nothing better to do,etc. true friends will talk to you on the phone, see you and do things with you.

5. they don't call..fugettaboutit! e mails are for business purposes and people not on a personal level..aquaintences/business partners and not FRIENDS.

about the shy thing..pay it no mind, i'm not shy at all and i meet people easily, if you meet "10" new friends in two months you'll be talking to one of 'em, so So WHAT! i would rather have 1 real friend than 10 "people" i know.

i know hundreds of people but i talk to,associate with very few..some people want friends just for the sake of saying they have them..ask these people for 50 bucks and you will quickly find out how many REAL friends you have!