As a non-binary person who is biologically female or afab, however you wish to call it ,and identifies as a heterosexual woman but who also feels more masculine than feminine in most other areas, one thing that always annoys me is when cis people(my mom for ex does it a lot) tell me things like :

"why don't you just let your hair grow a bit, style it a tad more feminine, maybe wear some jewellery or a piece of clothing that would make you look more feminine? Everyone makes compromises, why would it be so hard to just temper that masculine side so men would maybe like you, as you so desire?"

Very painful to hear although I know they mean well and sincerely can't understand the problem. It makes me feel like what they actually mean, without intending it that way, is that in order to be attractive/liked/accepted/loved, I need to hide a huge part of my identity and put myself through a mental ordeal because my identity, the very way that I am is making me undesirable for no reason.