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Originally Posted by ladytiger
I have these temper tantrums and rages when things don't go my way. I also have abandonment issues, no sense of controlling my emotions (still learning), and guess just act like a child. There was no type of nurturing at all and my ex-therapist really didn't do a good job on working with me on that she just said be your own hero, yea, what does that entail? When I was a kid, I had no sense of doing anything on my own, I was bred to be codependent like my mom with her contradictions to be independent.
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be your own parent just means doing for yourself what you think a parent should do....
examples
when you notice you are cold change your clothing or get a blanket to wrap up in so that you are no longer cold.
if you are hungry go get something to eat.
if you are thirsty get something to drink
if you are sad find things that will make you feel better. for me sometimes that means letting myself feel sad and have a good cry, sometimes that means finding a blanket and wrapping it around me closing my eyes and imagining the blanket is my wife holding me.
if you are angry take care of your self in what ever ways will make you feel better. for me that means expressing my anger through my art, writing in my journal, wadding up paper into balls and throwing them at an unbreakable target.....
parenting your self just means doing for yourself what you would like others to do for you.