Well, thanks guys for the input. I'll let you know what develops. Kimmydawn, why wouldn't you want to see the same T for both? Does anyone think there is value for my individual work after T sees me interacting with my husband? I am also afraid of T not being impartial but he is not seeing my husband individually. I don't know, it gets icky. We'll see. I did ask a friend who is a T and she said that it's okay for T to see a family member in the context of family or couples therapy (not individually) but will he be still following my agenda?

Marie, thanks for your input. He is a good therapist and my reluctance to ask for a new T for couples work has to do with the fact that I, too, have difficulty opening up and can't bear the thought of starting with a new T. Besides, my husband feels comfortable with my T as he helped us both through a difficult time when my son was ill.