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Originally Posted by Dewbot
I know it's because I'm drawn to people as broken or as vulnerable as I am, or at least that what my present (and most trusted) therapist says. I know that because my life has been chaos I feel most comfortable in chaos, and the relationship I had with the last girl was toxic... which made it appealing to me. The present "relationship" is too perfect, so something must be wrong, right?
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I totally get that....in my life I always end up the 'fixer' and if someone doesn't seem broken enough to me, I'm rarely if ever interested. I try to avoid gravitating to relationships where I'm the bearer of needed salvation, because I always get hurt in the end, but I'll be honest...it's very difficult.
At this juncture, I just try to keep to myself, and have avoided any 'love' type relationships...it's safer for me, doesn't leave me gutted when I finally realize I can't save them and I'm losing myself in the attempt. Maybe, concentrating more on yourself would be helpful (although I'm sure your T already suggested that)
Best I can do is tell you you're not alone, that others (including myself) experience just what you are....
Take care
