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Originally Posted by sdcg76
First up if you reply please no negative comments as I am already depressed, thanks.
I have only been married for 2 months and I'm already thinking of divorce. I just had a baby 3 months ago so that's been the only good thing that's happened. I have an 18 year old son from a previous relationship and I raised him all by myself which of course wasn't easy, however for the most part he's a good young man. We've had our battles of course but he has apologized and I have moved on, however my husband hasn't. He came into our lives 2 1/2 years ago right at the time when my son was being a pain in the butt and he doesn't understand why I don't kick my son out since he's 18 now and he feels my son isn't doing things to his "standards". He feels he's not getting a job fast enough, but he is trying unlike hubby he stopped looking awhile ago. I'm not kicking my son out. Hubby has shown the ugly side of him now with a temper, which he says is because of how he was raised and having ADHD with no meds and since we're married now he no longer has to keep quiet about things my son does. It has become so bad I had to kick hubby out (his apt. is across the street) because my son was defending me because hubby was talking bad about me, so he got mad and tried to fight my son. My son went to the prosecutors and a hearing is scheduled. Hubby feels he's done nothing wrong but his temper is out of control. I am at my wits end. He finally got insurance to get back on meds but I wonder is it too late and too much damage been done to save our marriage. I don't want to be a single mom again but I deserved to be loved and treated with respect, as does my son. Anyone else have a similiar story?
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Oh, I'm so sorry you're going thru this! It's not fair to you or your son and you are so right in everything you've done thusfar in my opinion. I know you're feeling overwhelmed and any woman would in your position with a new baby and now this. I am impressed how strong you are, and how you're handling this! It cannot be easy.
My second ex H also had run ins with my son (he was a 16 year old smart ***, thought he knew it all etc) it was typical teenage thing, although my son did have ADHD, he had been off meds for a long time, and actually his T said he wouldn't need them as long as he followed the protocol they had worked out together. So basically, my son was just been a regular teenage hellion. My husband at that time, found his actions, comments etc as an attack on HIM, personally insulting him, when most times my son was directing his angst at me.
At the time my H had no kids of his own (he has 2 now, and they're moving into their teens---so yes, there IS a god) and it took so much for me to navigate those waters between a testing son and an overbearing, thin skinned husband. Eventually, we divorced (unrelated) but the only thing I could do during the troubles was tell my H, tough it out. He's MY son, he will ALWAYS come before you, no matter that I love you....he's my child and I will be the one to decide how the situation(s) are handled. Your input is welcomed, but thats ALL it is...you will NOT decide what is best...that is MY job.
He didn't like it, we had several arguments, but he did finally back down. I commend you for your strength (I don't know that I could be with a new baby AND this additional issue) and I wish you luck and hope things work out...you seem to have a very good grasp on this and what you believe needs to be done.
Hang in there, kiddo. You're amazing!
