I am also disconnected from my husband because I got better. I quit drugs and got off abilify which ended my manic spending. I gained weight on seroquel so I'm not having sex with him because I'm self conscious and sober. I got off anti psychotics after a year of heavy exercise and dieting kept me obese. So, now I'm losing weight and have healthy habits that don't include going to bars, smoking cigarettes or acting like an imbecile. He used to say I was more like his child than his wife and I'm younger. I did have to go on disability so I don't have the same income to contribute. I think we are just both really new at this relationship. I'm not the same wife. When we married I was a hot mess. I was actually drunk and manic during our vows lol. I think he feels insecure because I've improved my lifestyle. I hate the fact that he is smoking and drinking. Granted I was doing illegal drugs, but none of them are healthy. Also, I really don't want to spend my life as his nurse if he gets emphysema or cirrhosis. Both of which are very likely as he is 11 yrs older and a life long user. And I love and care about him. I don't enjoy watching people I love kill themselves, but chances are he'll never quit. I barely did.