This forum really helped me come out of my shell, so I'd like to help you. I am fascinated that this is an issue in other countries, I keep thinking some issues are only in American. It is nice to hear that the experience is universal. I am not in your situation, but I am. Remove the gender identity and we are still experiencing some of the same fears and self-isolation.

I was born female and look female, but when I join dating websites, I get creepy African American men or elderly White men emailing me. I'm black, so I am not prejudice, but I'd like to meet someone I actually have something in common with, no people that are really shallow and could potentially re-traumatize me.

I have no solutions, but I do have a plan. I have decided to give up the online dating sites because they are no longer a safe place for shy people to go and meet others. I feel like sex freaks have taken over and use it as though it is a red light district. This is very offensive. There is another dating website that has online access but also hosts local events but it costs money each month. when I am in a better financial position, I plan to join this group and participate in the social events.

In our country, we also have online social networks called Meetup. I don't know if you have it in Romania, but it would be worth a quick Google.

I used to live in California and I met a better caliber of people at group therapy and support groups. We all knew each other's diagnoses and problems and the friendships developed felt more natural. I have moved to Missouri and have yet to find an appropriate group therapy or support group for people with mental health issues. Please find one in your area or ask your doctor to refer you to one. It really is the best place to meet new friends.

If I were in your neighbrhood, I would be your friend. I would hang out with you and and I hope that is enough to get you to give others a chance to spend time with you. There are so many of us out here hurting that sharing your story might be just what someone else needed to hear. You are not alone. Reach out locally and you will surprised who says, "Me, too!"