You have quite a life story. Your husband clearly doesn't love and respect you and he is not contributing to the family. You owe it to yourself and your twins to not allow his behavior anymore. Plus he is putting your health at risk. I may have missed it but why do you need low cost counseling if you have a good job? I definitely think you need to get into therapy to help you deal with your marriage, depression and parenting.

I wish you the best of luck!