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Originally Posted by June155
I have a problem and it always keeps happening.
I meet someone, I feel attracted, I have a great time with them and then they have to leave. And the first hours I'm fine, but then it starts to take over my mind.
I think about it every second, I constantly look at my phone just to see if I have gotten a message, all I want to do is see him again and I know that if I do it will only get worse. In a few days I'll be obsessed and think of him as the love of my life.
It's so ridiculous, I feel so independent, meet someone, play it cool, but by the next evening I'll be planning our marriage in my head.
And then when it doesn't work out, I'll be completely crushed.
I really want to find a way to develop a relationship in a healthy way by slowly letting something grow but I cannot stop the train of thoughts..
TIPS PLEASE! :-)
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I will be watching and waiting for answers.
The best answer I have been given was by my T just yesterday. He says to stay present. Focus on what is around you. He said, "When I'm not around you, leave me alone. When your husband isn't around leave him alone. When your sister isn't around leave her alone. Pay attention to those around you and deal with them. Deal with them in a way that's productive. Deal with reality. You wont be disappointed. You have to do this shi+. Doing something you don't want to do is not as bad as you think it is."
I understand exactly what he is saying but I don't relay it back well nor do I find it simple to do. I have to keep trying though. When I catch myself thinking too much about someone or something I have to change tracks. I am going to try to play a quick puzzle or something similar to switch my thinking. If I can do this... If we can do this, life will seem a lot easier.
Now, that's enough thinking about my T. I'm going to move to something else. Good luck to us all.