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Originally Posted by Trebyn
That's not completely true. There are clauses in age of consent laws for when the individuals are close in age, but someone who was under age can still be charged and found guilty of sexual abuse.
One of my abusers was an under age babysitter. By the time charges were laid and it went to trial he was in his late 20s or early 30s. He was found guilty and sent to prison for a time.
It really depends on how it was being initiated, whether she had any authority, how much older she was, etc. Depending on those variables, the fact that she had been going through abuse herself would lend credence to the argument that she was engaging in abusive behaviour, if that argument was to be presented. My sister reacted to our own early years this way, becoming an abuser herself towards me through our childhood.
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This 100%.
Abuse isn't just an older man with a young girl, as we all see as survivors plastered every where in media. If it was something that caused you trauma, caused anxiety, or sleep disturbances, yes, I do believe that falls under the umbrella that is abuse.
It is difficult when two children, who rarely understand consent, get into a sexual relationship because it is something that can stick with you and at the time, like you said, physically, it felt good! And as children, if something feels good mentally or physically, it powers the reward systems of our brain (and this is not in cases involving a minor with an adult, but from what I have seen with children and children together) and once we age we realize the consequences (pregnancy, which is why you both stopped) and can look at the situation in a different way.
What it comes down to is this. If it made an impact on your development and causes anxiety/nightmares, then yes, I do believe it was abuse.